Add custom verification handler to NIOSSLServerHandler #2145

Job	Run time
linux (swift:5.9)	3m 36s
linux (swift:5.10)	3m 28s
linux (swift:6.0)	3m 55s
linux (swiftlang/swift:nightly-6.1-jammy)	4m 47s
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