fix: TableView jump to top on asynchronous load

[obreitwi]

Closes #8132.

We confirmed that this PR resolves the issue internally, but I will provide a minimal example for easier verification.

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[yihuiliao]

Thanks for the PR! You'll need to sign the CLA for all the checks to pass. If you could provide a minimal example (storybook) for easier verification that would be great. Otherwise, the changes make sense but we'll need to test.